BBW dating: ignoring the pressure to conform to society


May 5, 2008 – 9:51 am

Every day, every hour and every minute, men are presented with images of women. Most of these images are nothing more than what the media thinks are attractive and desirable qualities of women.

The images rarely show real women, and the media consistently fails to portray women the way they really look. Flaws are airbrushed.

Perfection is the only standard. There has been a lot said about how the media pressures women to conform. Eating disorders, cosmetic surgery and low self esteem are the fall out of these inaccurate media images.

Although a lot is said about how unrealistic standards affect women, rarely is anything said about how these images affect men. There is no doubt that unrealistic images affect men as well. Many men chase after the “ideal” woman and refuse to date anything less.

The often become disillusioned when they realize that the “ideal” woman only exists in magazines. Fortunately, not all men are shallow. Even men who are not shallow, however, feel the need to conform. They worry that if they date someone they see as beautiful and attractive that their friends and society at large will not approve. This is especially true with men who like to date big, beautiful women.

If you are turned on by BBW women, you need to fight the pressure to conform. It is your life; it is your happiness. Do not let others tell you how to live it. The following are reasons why you should follow your heart and not the words of men:
• Your friends who voice disapproval are only doing so because they also feel the pressure to conform. In most cases, they don’t really mean what they are saying. They are only reacting out of their own embarrassment about what society will think of them if they see you all out as a group.

• No one else lives your life, and no one else has to deal with your decisions but you. If you choose a woman that your friends and society likes, you will be miserable at home. You need to be honest with yourself and choose a mate that you think is beautiful. Pick your soul mate, not a poster wife.

• Everyone has different tastes in women. The fact that you like BBW women is no different than a man who loves women with short hair. And what about men who like to date women of a certain race. They are all pursuing what they think is attractive. Why shouldn’t you?

• Relationships that are based on looks are often superficial. You owe it to yourself to pursue a relationship that involves the heart.

When it comes to dating, no one should make your decisions for you. Follow your heart and your desires and you will never be disappointed where they lead you. If they lead you in the direction of BBW women, so be it. Live, love and be happy with the woman of your dreams.

  • This article was written by the dating advice team at CuddlyDating.com, the BBW dating site.