Christian dating: should you date someone from another faith?

March 26, 2008 – 3:55 pm

Throughout history and all across the board, people of faith have generally dated and married people within their own religion.

The same is true when it comes to Christianity; however, online dating has opened the door wide open to inter-faith dating. More and more Christians are dating people of other faiths.

Should you? If you do, how will you run your household? How will you raise children? And how will you respect each other while paying tribute to your own beliefs?

The choice to date someone from another faith is strictly a personal decision. No one can tell you if it is right or wrong in your particular situation, but there are some guidelines that can help you decide. If you are very strict or dogmatic in your faith, you may not be able to practice your religion without stepping on your partner’s toes.
Also, how does your organization accept those of other faiths? If your church has a closed-door or convert policy, you may find yourself constantly torn between your partner and your faith. If you have an open mind, on the other hand, you may be able to appreciate and respect your partner’s beliefs even though they are not your own.

The number of multi-faith households is on the rise. How do they do it? Well, it all comes down to respect. Many times, both will take an active part observing holiday celebrations of both religions. When it comes to worship, they may part ways but they are always respectful of the other person’s schedule and observances.

Children raised in families with mixed belief systems are often taught to observe both religions. When the child becomes old enough to choose, he or she can choose their own path.

Again, this all comes down to tolerance. If you believe that there is only one right way and wish to browbeat everyone into submission, having this type of relationship is not for you.

It will only bring hurt and heartache to your family. Your children will be confused about what is acceptable and what is not. They may even compromise their own beliefs just to make you happy. To make it work, you need to strive to maintain an open and loving atmosphere that accepts and respects every member of your family equally.

We’ve talked a lot about respect, and there is a reason for that. Respect is the key ingredient for making a mixed faith relationship work. Without it, your relationship will ultimately suffer.

To respect a partner of different faith, you need to keep an open mind. You do not have to believe the same way, but you have to believe in the reasons why your partner practices their faith. You should also avoid trying to convert your partner to your faith.

A relationship is about merging two lives together, not about acquiring and dismantling another life and rebuilding it to suit you. If you are open to this, you may be ready to date people of other faiths online.