Dating an older woman: tips for a perfect first date


March 27, 2008 – 12:10 pm

Asking out an older woman can be intimidating. Will she think you’re mature enough? What should you do to impress her? What will turn her off? Will she even say yes?

What if she does say yes, then what? The questions are endless. Don’t worry, though. If you have your eye on a particular older woman that you met online, there are several tips that you can follow to make sure that you get it right the first time.

There are a lot of older women who enjoy dating younger men. So if you meet an older woman through a dating website, don’t assume that she will say no because of your age.

After all, there is no harm in trying. Be sure to be respectful and really take the time to get to know her via email, instant messaging and telephone conversations before you ask her out. This will increase the chances that she will say yes.

Plus, it’s always a good idea to get to know each other before you meet. It will even give you things to talk about on the date.

Tips for a Perfect First Date

The first date is always extremely important. So, you want to make sure that you plan a perfect one. The following tips will help you do just that:

Don’t overdo it. The first date should be sweet and simple. Avoid over the top adventures such as scuba diving and rock climbing. These outings really don’t give you a chance to get to know each other. The classic dinner and a movie first date will do quite nicely. Choose a quiet, elegant restaurant where you can talk and get to know each other. Atmosphere is everything, so make sure that you pick a restaurant that has plenty.

Chivalry is not dead. Be on time. Pick her up in a nice, freshly cleaned car. You can bring flowers, or not, it’s really up to you. Whatever you do, be sure to put her comfort first.

Lead the conversation. Be sure to talk about things that she would be interested in. I’m not sure if she really wants to hear about your drunken adventures with your friends. Instead, pick topics that prove to her that you are mature and can hold a conversation that will hold her interest.

Listen to what she has to say. Many older women will not come right out and tell you what they need, but they will leave subtle hints. If you pay attention, you will learn how she wants to be treated.

Never assume that a first date is going to end up in the bedroom. In fact, if you want a second date, you should do all you can to avoid it. Make her feel like you really enjoy spending time with her and she will probably honor you with a second date.