Gay internet dating: if and when should you do erotic chat online?

March 27, 2008 – 12:34 pm

Whenever you talk about online dating, the conversation always seems to come around to erotic chat. In other words, should you talk dirty to people you meet online?

How soon is too soon? How much is too much? Will he respect me tomorrow if I chat him up tonight? The questions are endless.

There is no doubt that there is a lot of erotic chat going on online. It’s everywhere, and there are several ways that you can do it. You can do it in chat rooms in front of a dozen other people. You can do it privately via private instant messaging.

You can do it anonymously through email. You can even turn on the mic and do it vocally. Everyone else is doing it, shouldn’t you? And if you don’t, won’t he just find someone else who will?

The number one predictor of whether or not you should engage in erotic chat is your comfort level. If you are uncomfortable, don’t do it. If you enjoy it, on the other hand, it could prove to be a boost to your relationship. With that said, you still shouldn’t throw yourself out there during the first conversation no matter how comfortable you are.

There are many people online looking for erotic chat, phone sex or a one night stand. These people have no intention of settling down with one person anytime soon. They may not even be interested in dating at all, but they will fill out dating profiles so that they can meet people online, people they can chat with.

If you are looking for someone to date, you will need to weed the bad out from the good. Avoid people who only seem interested in turning the conversation to erotic topics. In most cases, they are only after one thing.

After you have talked to someone for a while and really gotten to know them, erotic chat can bring you closer together. Chat boxes are a non-threatening medium where you can share your fantasies without fear of rejection. You may also find yourself sharing things that you wouldn’t dare to in person, which is a good thing.

Erotic chat can also help you learn things about the other person so that when you are together in real life, you will know what to do and what not to do.

Many online relationships are long distance relationships. Erotic chat can help strengthen bonds and make the distance seem not so great.

It can help ease frustration with not being able to see each other as often as you would like. It can also help create the euphoric feeling of being in love which is often difficult to do in long distance relationships.

No matter what you decide about erotic chat, be sure to be true to yourself. Know what you expect out of a relationship and make sure that the person you choose expects the same thing.