Lesbian dating in the internet age: switch on to a whole new scene


March 12, 2008 – 10:48 am

How do most lesbian couples meet? If you’re not one of the fortunate few whose friends set you up on one disastrous blind date after another, you’re probably meeting other lesbian singles in clubs. If so, you’re not alone.

More than half of lesbian couples report that they met at a nightclub or similar venue.

And there are very solid reasons why lesbians prefer to meet at clubs rather than at work and in other social settings.

It’s the one place that you can be sure that you’re not going to offend someone or out someone who is not ready to be outed.

It takes all of the anxiety, well a good bit of it anyway, out of approaching someone you don’t know and asking them for a date.

Even though this has been the most popular way to meet lesbian singles for decades, it is not the ideal place to hook up today.

The club scene can sometimes seem more like a meat market than a great place to meet a girl who’s ready to settle down.

So, where’s a good place to meet others? Online lesbian dating sites, of course.

There are several reasons why meeting others online is a good idea. Here are just a few:

  • Fling or Flame? – When you meet online, you know someone’s intentions up front. You will know right away if someone is in it for love or only in it for the night. When you meet at a club, you might pursue the relationship for days or weeks before you really know what they’re after.
  • Scan for a Perfect Match – Browsing profiles is a great way to check to see if you’re compatible with someone before you approach them. At the club, all you need to know is if they’re cute. You may see a cute face online and after a reading a few lines of their profile, decide that they’re not the one for you.
  • Party Days are Over – People go to clubs to party. Anyone that you meet at a club will likely want to continue to party after they start dating you. If you’re not into the club scene, you could end up with your heart broken.
  • Really Get to Know the Person – Chatting online is a great way to get to know someone before you meet them. You can talk about what you want out of a relationship and see if you are truly compatible before you make the decision to meet each other. You can talk about important issues and see where each other stands. And, most importantly, you can make a decision about each other without the heat of sexual attraction muddling your brain.

The internet has opened up a world of opportunity to everyone. It is what you make of it, and when it comes to romance, online lesbian dating can be a great place to make a connection with someone who is interested in meeting you.

So forget about the blind dates. This time, pick someone that YOU like.