Online Christian dating: test the compatibility of your date

March 26, 2008 – 3:58 pm

Christian values are very personal and sacred. If you are just starting to date or are looking for a partner online, you no doubt want to find someone with the same values as you.

But often this is easier said than done. There is a wide range of values among people who profess Christianity. This can be very confusing especially if you are meeting people online.

Many times people will use Christian dating sites when they are looking to settle down with someone of similar beliefs.

There is no doubt that dating sites can be a great tool, but you have to know how to use the tool properly before you can use it successfully. As mentioned earlier, there are a lot of belief systems under the Christian umbrella.

Many of them may be compatible with your own belief system, but many will not be. Just because someone says they are a Christian, does not mean that they are right for you, and you need to keep this in mind when you browse profiles on Christian dating sites.

So, how can you tell if you’re compatible? You should first ask what denomination they are, but this is still not fool proof. There are many differences among denominations. Some people may even profess to belong to a certain organization.

They may very well belong to the organization, but do they attend? Do they practice the fundamental values of the denomination? Do they believe everything in the church handbook? These are all great questions to ask.

Next, pay attention to their tone of speech. Are they respectful? Do they respond to certain situations the same way you would? Is their personality dependable and predictable? If there are huge discrepancies in their responses, they are probably not being very honest with you.

Remember the saying, “Actions speak louder than words?” This is very true. See how they interact with others. Are their dealings at work honest? How do they treat their family?

After someone has met all of the above criteria, it is time to delve into their deeper conscience. You can do this by talking openly about your beliefs. Talk about those topics that are most important to you. If you go to church regularly, you should ask about their attendance schedule.

Ask them how important attending is for them. Would they go if they were tired or would they sleep in?

Keep in mind that you do not have to be 100% compatible 100% of the time. There are many Christian belief systems that meld together perfectly. People of completely different faiths can come together and raise a family while honoring both belief systems.

The key is to know what is most important to you. You need to figure out which points of your faith are solid and which are fluid. Then, you need to find someone who is compatible with those points that you are not willing to budge on.